Don't have arguments in your head!

Don't have arguments in your head!

Back in the 70’s, I was trained in Advanced Self Management by a guy named Sedley Burger. One of the stories he told was of a guy who wanted to borrow his neighbour’s power cable.

He set off to ask, but then remembered that the last time he’d borrowed something, he’d damaged it and they’d had an almighty argument about how he couldn’t look after anything properly. So now he was saying to himself “OK, so I messed up your lawnmower, but I only need to borrow your cable for an hour or so, and there’s no way I can damage that. I mean, heck, what kind of a person do you think I am? D’you think I purposely go around busting things, just for the hell of it? Darn it all, That’s totally unreasonable. I think you just over react when some little thing in your life isn’t perfect!”

By this time, he was at the neighbour’s door. He was so steamed up that when it was opened, he shouted “and you can shove your cable right where it belongs!” and stormed back to his own home empty handed.

So, what was the lesson Sedley was teaching us? Don’t hold arguments in your head. You’ll just wind yourself up unnecessarily and you certainly won’t resolve anything.

At Gallagher School we aim to teach our students to speak their minds and share their thoughts and feelings with one another. This is a very important process in forming relationships and learning to deal with conflict in a positive manner. A lot of children tend to crop up their emotions, which can lead to problems like depression, drug addiction or bullying. By teaching them to speak their mind from an early age, we equp them with the tools to confront these emotions and feelings. If you are interested in enrolling your child into our Midrand school, please feel free to get in touch with us and we will have a representative contact you.